Of all the changes that you could possibly undertake, there is one that is going to be most worthwhile in the long run. As you’ll find, most of the changes that you need to make may be fairly trivial, i.e. putting down the toilet lid once you’re done, but this one change is by no means trivial, and will probably be the most important thing that you do.
In a word, it is: Tolerance.
Living together with another person, as you should know by now, is all about give and take. No matter how hard two people try, there’s no way they’re going to both be able to change themselves to be exactly as the other person wants – nor should they. End of the day, what a successful marriage all boils down to is making an effort to try to accomodate your spouse, while at the same time tolerating some of the things that they do.
Just spend a moment and think back to your last few arguments. Would they have happened had you both been just a little more tolerant? In most cases, the answer is: No, they would not. If you didn’t spark up because of something your partner did, or your partner didn’t spark up because of something you did, many of your arguments would probably never have even come to pass.
Unfortunately, although tolerance is the key to mending even the most broken relationship, it is also one of the hardest things to foster, particularly when things have already gone horribly wrong. Mind you, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t worth the effort to at least try to be a little more tolerant. As you’ll find, even the smallest bit of tolerance could help you to mend your fences, and move on and have a happier marriage!
