One person can change, but ultimately it takes two to tango – as the saying goes. Just as you probably weren’t solely responsible for the problems in your marriage, you aren’t solely responsible for the solution either. While initially it may suffice that you take the first initiative and show your spouse that it is possible to change for the better, eventually, they will have to join in too.
Getting this to happen can be tricky, and honestly it depends on how far gone your relationship is. For some, it may have gone to a point where too many hurtful things have been said and done, and they feel that they can never forgive the other. If that’s the case, reconciliation may indeed be a pipe dream.
However, in most cases if one party shows the other that they can change, it can be enough to trigger a reconciliation. Of course, that’s just the first step – and from that point on both parties need to do one thing to move on: Resolve to change together.
Accomplishing that is the key to not only saving your marriage, but actually strengthening it. If you and your spouse are able to reach such a resolution, you’ll find that the two of you are bound to be more tolerant and understanding of each others flaws – as you’re both going through the same effort to change!
Honestly, this is one of the best results that you can hope for, but in order to get there you’re going to need to be willing to put in the necessary effort. Do that, and you’ll see just how remarkable a saved marriage can be!
