Even though your marriage may seem to be disintegrating around you, you don’t intend to give in without a fight, right? You’re going to make an effort, and try to see if your marriage can be saved, because to you – it’s worth it.
Unfortunately, you don’t just need to convince yourself that your marriage can be saved. You also need to convince your spouse, and if the two of you have been estranged for some time, that could be very much easier said than done. Very few people know how is best to get in contact with an estranged spouse, and seeing as there are so many things that could go wrong, you should definitely pay close attention right now.
For starters, all you need to do is establish some form of contact. You could try a phone call, but unless your spouse has voice mail that could be a dead end. What you want is to get the message across to your estranged other somehow, and then let them decide for themselves if and when they feel like talking further.
Email, letters, texts, anything and everything works, just remember to only get in contact once.
Essentially, the message that you should be sending is simple, and it should be that you’re sorry about how things work out, but that you’ve been thinking and you don’t want to let your marriage just die. Also, it should say how you’re willing to make an effort to change so that you both never end up in the same position ever again.
Really, there isn’t much more that you can say other than that.
Once you’ve done your part, the only thing you can do is wait, and see if your estranged spouse feels the same way. It may take time, so be patient – who knows, you might be able to save your marriage after all.
