In marriages where things have really deteriorated to the point where you’re practically separated, it may seem as though reconciliation is the last thing that is about to happen. But the key question that you still need to ask yourself remains the same: Is it worth trying to save your marriage, or isn’t it?
If you feel it isn’t – case closed. But if you feel that there’s even the slightly possibility that it’s worth trying to fix, it’s up to you to start to bridge the wide chasm of a gap that lies between you and your spouse.
Sadly, this is where the hard part begins.
How do you actually bridge a gap that has been so long in the making? How long is it going to take? Will your spouse ever be able to forgive you? Will you ever be able to live with them again?
All these questions have no real answers. It really does vary from time to time. Sure, you could get lucky and call up your spouse only to find out that they’ve been thinking the exact same thing and are ready to make changes and try to make your marriage work. Or, and equally possibly, you could call up your spouse and have the phone go unanswered, permanently.
There’s no way to predict whether things are going to work out or not, so for now you’d best just try to not think about that. Take things one step at a time, and the first step that needs to be made is for you to make a move to bridge the gap between you two. All it takes is one phone call, one message on your spouse’s voice mail, one text, or one email. Anything at all works, just don’t be pushy.
After that, all you can do is wait.
